Facing Fear: Do It Afraid

Fear is a normal part of life. In fact, we’re biologically wired to feel fear because it’s meant to keep us safe. But here’s the thing: most of the time, the fears that hold us back aren’t life-threatening—they’re simply uncomfortable.

The first step to facing fear is recognizing it. Too often, we have a gut reaction to say no to something we’re interested in without realizing that fear is the driving force behind that decision. Maybe you’ve thought, I’d like to try that, only to quickly follow it with, Oh no, I couldn’t.

That moment—the instant “no”—is your opportunity to pause and investigate. Ask yourself:

• Why am I saying no?

• Am I afraid because this is actually dangerous?

• Or is this fear about stepping into the unknown, taking a risk, or putting myself out there?

For me, fear has shown up over and over again: when I left the Harley-Davidson dealership to start my own business, when I began painting and sharing my art with the world, when I wrote my first book, and even when I launched another small business. In every case, fear was there, whispering, What if you fail? What if this doesn’t work?

But here’s what I’ve learned: fear doesn’t have to stop you. You can acknowledge it, evaluate it, and then take action anyway.

One thing that has helped me immensely is a sticky note I keep above my computer. It reads: I may be afraid, but I’m going to do it anyway. If I do it wrong, I’ll change and do something different.

That simple reminder has been a game changer. It’s a mindset that allows me to take action even when fear is present. And you know what? Most of the time, the thing I was afraid of wasn’t nearly as scary as I thought.

Fear is part of the process. It’s a signal that you’re stepping outside of your comfort zone, which is where growth happens. By learning to face fear, I’ve been able to build a life I love—a life filled with creativity, connection, and opportunities I wouldn’t have had if I had let fear hold me back.

So, the next time you feel that gut reaction of “no,” pause. Investigate. Ask yourself if this is a fear worth overcoming. Chances are, it’s not life-threatening—it’s just unfamiliar. And the only way to get past it is to take that first step.

Call to Action:

Revisit Chapter 8 of Beauty from Chaos for more tools and stories to help you face your fears and take bold steps toward the life you want. Remember: fear is normal, but it doesn’t have to stop you. Do it afraid—you’ll be glad you did.