There are seasons in life when change feels almost tangible—like you can sense the new version of yourself just waiting to step fully into the light. But at the same time, there’s this tug from the past, a quieter voice pulling you back toward who you used to be.
I recently had a moment of clarity that brought this to life for me.
In my mind’s eye, I could see two houses: one, shiny and new, representing the woman I am becoming. It stood tall and open, ready to hold my growth and all the possibilities that are unfolding. But off to the side, there was a little shack. That shack was the old version of me. And every so often, I imagined her sneaking over to take pieces from the new house—bits of confidence, new habits, or fresh ways of thinking—almost as if she wasn’t ready to let go.
At first, I felt frustrated by that image. Wasn’t I supposed to have left that shack behind? But then something softened in me. I realized: I don’t have to hate or reject the woman I once was. She built the foundation that allows me to step into the new home of my becoming. She held lessons, resilience, and strength that I now carry forward.
The truth is, both selves are valuable. The past version of me did the best she could with what she had, and honoring her makes it easier to embrace the woman I am becoming. Instead of battling with my old self, I can let both houses exist, side by side, with compassion.
And maybe that’s what transformation really is—not demolishing the shack or rushing into the new home, but allowing both to exist while choosing, moment by moment, where you want to dwell.
So if you find yourself feeling torn between who you were and who you’re becoming, I want you to know this: both versions of you deserve love. The past holds wisdom, and the future holds possibility. You don’t have to choose one over the other—you just need to honor the whole of your becoming.
